3冊全部読みました。間にいくつかの恋愛と別れを経験しましたが、
もう一度読み直すとルールをやぶりまくっていました。(未婚です)
ダメと分かりつつ、やってしまう。
でも失敗する度に学びます。
人を受け入れること。人に押し付けないこと。
心に余裕を持つこと。
ルールっていう言葉だけ聞くと、なんだかすごいけど、
自分勝手や自分本意はダメよ、ってそんなシンプルなことを気づこうっていうメッセージがこのルールに詰まっています。
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The Rules(TM) for Marriage: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work マスマーケット – 2002/4/1
英語版
Ellen Fein
(著),
Sherrie Schneider
(著)
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You did the Rules-And They Worked! You captured the heart of your Mr. Right and are, at the very least, engaged. Maybe you're married ... or perhaps you and your partner got together without the help of The Rules. Now You're Looking for Ways to Keep Your Relationship Happy and Healthy. The Rules For Marriage is Here! In this new book, the authors of The Rules offer forty-two time-tested tips for keeping your marriage healthy and happy. Some will sound familiar, others are completely new. But they all lead to the same wonderful future-the one in which you and your husband stay together forever! Discover: * Rule #4: Keep up your own interests (have a life!) * Rule #15: Say what you mean, but don't say it mean * Rule #21: Don't force him to "talk" * Rule #35: Don't find fault with things you knew about when you married him So whatever your marital problems, The Rules for Marriage can help.
- 本の長さ272ページ
- 言語英語
- 出版社Grand Central Publishing
- 発売日2002/4/1
- 寸法10.8 x 1.91 x 17.15 cm
- ISBN-100446610860
- ISBN-13978-0446610865
登録情報
- 出版社 : Grand Central Publishing (2002/4/1)
- 発売日 : 2002/4/1
- 言語 : 英語
- マスマーケット : 272ページ
- ISBN-10 : 0446610860
- ISBN-13 : 978-0446610865
- 寸法 : 10.8 x 1.91 x 17.15 cm
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ルールを守ってMr.Rightをつかまえたあなたが次に守るべき結婚のルールとは・・・数ページづつ、「彼の家族のことには口をはさまない」「離婚を口にしない」「一度でも浮気されたら結婚はおしまいと肝に銘じておくこと」等々のルールと解説が示されています。全体的なトーンとしては、「妻は我慢すべし。夫をたて、許し、甘やかして王様のように扱っていればあなたも幸せに」という感じです。これが真実だとしても、ここまで露骨に「女性が賢く立ち回れば全てOK」的な書き方だと、男性をお子ちゃま扱いしすぎているようにも感じられました。また冒頭、筆者の一人が離婚していたことを明かしていたことが今ひとつ説得力の無いように感じてしまった原因の一つかも知れません。
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Mariana G.
5つ星のうち3.0
No aplica en la época actual
2020年4月30日にメキシコでレビュー済みAmazonで購入
Creo que es un libro que la gran mayoría de lo que dice no aplica en la época actual.
Me parece que no toma en cuenta en cómo se sienten las mujeres. Simplemente toma en cuenta como hacer que el hombre se sienta bien.
Me parece que no toma en cuenta en cómo se sienten las mujeres. Simplemente toma en cuenta como hacer que el hombre se sienta bien.
Kady
5つ星のうち5.0
Old fashioned advice. But timeless. Not popular but ...
2018年5月9日に英国でレビュー済みAmazonで購入
Old fashioned advice. But timeless. Not popular but being married is hard work. Take any help we can get!
GEM
5つ星のうち5.0
DON'T BELIEVE THE HATERS!
2014年2月27日にアメリカ合衆国でレビュー済みAmazonで購入
How anyone can give this book anything other than five stars is beyond me! This book is a wonderful example of how to live with compassion and care for the man you married! The idea that following it's tenets is somehow against women or antiquated proves how far the world has gone in the wrong direction. I am a strong woman with my own career and a mind of my own, but reading through this book I was reminded page after page how following the path of compassion is the way to go! If turning the other cheek, taking the high road, ditching nagging and following the golden rule are bad things then color me bad because I will NEVER go back to the self-absorbed, narcissistic, haggler that many women become once they are in a relationship. The tenets in this book can be summed up in no uncertain terms: LEAVE HIM ALONE! Stop nagging, beseeching, complaining, comparing, insisting, right-fighting and keeping a tally of who did what!! Approach your man with a smile and compassion. Realize that much of what you consider to be negative behavior is just him being a man. Unless you are living with the devil incarnate, there is no malcontent intended in most of his actions! He wants your love and support. He wants the woman that smiled at him from across the room. He wants the woman who shows up with a smile and makes the best of things. Give him some space and get your life back. After one day of practicing these ideas, my partner's demeanor changed dramatically. Now, when I am not in the room he comes looking for ME. I shudder to think of all the tearing down I did complaining about his personality when all he wanted was a soft place to fall at the end of the day. Ladies, read this book and reap the benefits right away. It is not only good for your marriage, it is good for you as an individual as well. Great book.
PanzerHase
5つ星のうち2.0
Problematic advice, kind of a let down compared to the other books
2020年4月27日にドイツでレビュー済みAmazonで購入
To be honest I kind of liked the advice in the first book because it prevents you from being any man's doormat and emphasized not to become too devoted and too dependent, while showing the reader aspects to better herself and make herself more relaxed and understanding. But all those defenses against abusive behavior seem to be thrown out the window here.
The advice boils down to: expect nothing, demand nothing, don't say anything negative, always do what he wants, smile, be nice.
I had high hopes for this book, because the advice given in the dating rules seemed reasonable to me, but this just seems like a recipe for misery. The rules might seem perfectly normal if you read the short, abstract idea of it, but their examples are quite off-putting. For example: the advice to let him win if the subject isn't too important to you: That could mean that you consider his stance and try to find a compromise or that it is not about winning or losing in a marriage at all. Their examples however talk about how doing what the wife wanted always ended in them both being unhappy, like buying unreasonably expensive things or simply that he will ruin anything he doesn't explicitly want with his bad mood. So in the end he has to get his way or you are a negging, negative hag that is sabotaging the marriage. And it is not small things, either: he decides where you will live, what house you will buy, how many children you have, what furniture to buy...you name it. The whole idea seems to be to do what he wants and try to be as happy as possible about it and never complain.
Most of the advice goes like this. This is applied to anything from where to go over what to buy to when and how to have sex - the book is arguing that he won't change, so you should either play along smiling and supporting him or end it. The only thing you should accept is cheating, anything else is his right to do and your duty to give.
Some people might argue that this books is promoting love, compassion and understanding and every woman should follow it to the letter. At least for me, this book is less promoting an understanding relationship full of love and without needless complaining, it is instead creating harmony between spouses on the back of the woman, who has to comply with his every wish while never asking for anything and never voicing any complaint in his presence. At least they allow you to complain to your married girlfriends.
What was most surprising to me was how it seems to contradict the promises of the first book, like getting a man that is invested in you and there for you at all times. This books tells you explicitly that you shouldn't expect anymore great gifts or even sympathy from him, because he cannot be bothered by this. It tells you that you cannot expect him to be there for you, be romantic, or do things for you out of love. You either have to built your life to accomodate his or you are a bad wife (for example: he cannot be bothered to stop listening to loud rock music at 6 am. The solution in the book is to get up even earlier and go to a gym class at 6 am to avoid the music and get sexy for him at the same time) The threat that he will leave or cheat is ever imminent and if you break the rules, your perfect rules-marriage is over and it is all your fault. Now I am not against taking responsibility for my actions or that I don't want to be nice to a partner, but if that means I have to put my wishes second to his for the rest of my life, do lots of things I don't want and can not even expect him to remember my birthday or comfort me when I am crying, I think I am not marriage material. I absolutely see how this will create a happy man that will adore this marriage, but I am not sure if I want to pay the price.
All in all this ruined the first book for me as well, because while I could see myself following the first set of rules to the letter, I do not want to lead that kind of marriage. If that is exactly what you want I am not judging, but I guess marriage isn't for me if this is the best marriage there is (like the authors don't fail to mention throughout their books)
The advice boils down to: expect nothing, demand nothing, don't say anything negative, always do what he wants, smile, be nice.
I had high hopes for this book, because the advice given in the dating rules seemed reasonable to me, but this just seems like a recipe for misery. The rules might seem perfectly normal if you read the short, abstract idea of it, but their examples are quite off-putting. For example: the advice to let him win if the subject isn't too important to you: That could mean that you consider his stance and try to find a compromise or that it is not about winning or losing in a marriage at all. Their examples however talk about how doing what the wife wanted always ended in them both being unhappy, like buying unreasonably expensive things or simply that he will ruin anything he doesn't explicitly want with his bad mood. So in the end he has to get his way or you are a negging, negative hag that is sabotaging the marriage. And it is not small things, either: he decides where you will live, what house you will buy, how many children you have, what furniture to buy...you name it. The whole idea seems to be to do what he wants and try to be as happy as possible about it and never complain.
Most of the advice goes like this. This is applied to anything from where to go over what to buy to when and how to have sex - the book is arguing that he won't change, so you should either play along smiling and supporting him or end it. The only thing you should accept is cheating, anything else is his right to do and your duty to give.
Some people might argue that this books is promoting love, compassion and understanding and every woman should follow it to the letter. At least for me, this book is less promoting an understanding relationship full of love and without needless complaining, it is instead creating harmony between spouses on the back of the woman, who has to comply with his every wish while never asking for anything and never voicing any complaint in his presence. At least they allow you to complain to your married girlfriends.
What was most surprising to me was how it seems to contradict the promises of the first book, like getting a man that is invested in you and there for you at all times. This books tells you explicitly that you shouldn't expect anymore great gifts or even sympathy from him, because he cannot be bothered by this. It tells you that you cannot expect him to be there for you, be romantic, or do things for you out of love. You either have to built your life to accomodate his or you are a bad wife (for example: he cannot be bothered to stop listening to loud rock music at 6 am. The solution in the book is to get up even earlier and go to a gym class at 6 am to avoid the music and get sexy for him at the same time) The threat that he will leave or cheat is ever imminent and if you break the rules, your perfect rules-marriage is over and it is all your fault. Now I am not against taking responsibility for my actions or that I don't want to be nice to a partner, but if that means I have to put my wishes second to his for the rest of my life, do lots of things I don't want and can not even expect him to remember my birthday or comfort me when I am crying, I think I am not marriage material. I absolutely see how this will create a happy man that will adore this marriage, but I am not sure if I want to pay the price.
All in all this ruined the first book for me as well, because while I could see myself following the first set of rules to the letter, I do not want to lead that kind of marriage. If that is exactly what you want I am not judging, but I guess marriage isn't for me if this is the best marriage there is (like the authors don't fail to mention throughout their books)
Amazon Customer
5つ星のうち5.0
Rules for marriage that work
2017年3月25日に英国でレビュー済みAmazonで購入
Excellent book. Teaches you different rules for marriage to normal dating. Check it out.