面白そう、と思って日本語版をちらっと見てみたが、あまり好きなタイプの翻訳ではなかったのでkindleで英語版を読みました。パートナーができ、結婚するのは喜ばしいこと。子供が産まれるのはさらにうれしいことだが、そこからが夫婦の本当の試練だというのは衆目の一致するところです。なぜ、なにが大変なのか。どうして子供はかわいいけど、パートナーが憎らしくなるのか。この本はその「なぜ」ということはあくまで妻側から見た一方的な視点で説明されます。曰く、夫は自分のことばかりして手伝ってくれない、私がこんなに大変なのにどうして?ということ。いやそれは、、、と夫の立場にある私は思います、手伝おうと思ったら自分の謎ルールを押し付けてくるし、たまには交代しようか、というと今更そんなことを言われても代われない、と仏頂面。
それはさておき、筆者はそういった夫に対する不満点をいろいろな専門家に相談して、それなりの解決を求めていきます。すべて現在形で書いてあり、リアルタイムでことが進んでいく感じが心地よいです。アドバイスは夫婦で受け入れなければならない内容なので、夫だけ、妻だけ、という理解では不足でしょうが、それはこの本を共有すればよいのでしょう。もちろん子供が産まれる前の方がよいと思いますが(産まれてからではこんなものをゆっくり読んでいる時間はない)。文書の構成は素晴らしく、最後の章で、それまでの「よかったアドバイス」をまとめて書いてあるのも親切、ベストセラーになって当然でしょう。
しかしこの本を読むと私は不安に思います、この本には「子供にとってよい両親であるためにパートナーとどう付き合うか」という考えが中心にあるようですが、子供はいずれ独立するでしょう。そのあと、この夫婦は続くのでしょうか?中心の子供がいなくなれば、お互い相手のことが必要なくなるのでは?また、もう一人子供ができたとしたら?この本は思春期前の小さな一人の子供を持つ夫婦がとりあえずうまくやっていくには役立つかもしれませんが、本当の意味でのパートナー理解にはつながらないと思います。このように、世にあまたあるこういう意思疎通の破綻を考察するうえで、いろんなヒントを与える本です。英語は平易ですので、原著で読むことをお勧めします。
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How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids (English Edition) Kindle版
"Get this for your pregnant friends, or yourself" (People): a hilariously candid account of one woman's quest to bring her post-baby marriage back from the brink, with life-changing, real-world advice.
How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids tackles the last taboo subject of parenthood: the startling, white-hot fury that new (and not-so-new) mothers often have for their mates. After Jancee Dunn had her baby, she found that she was doing virtually all the household chores, even though she and her husband worked equal hours. She asked herself: How did I become the 'expert' at changing a diaper?
Many expectant parents spend weeks researching the best crib or safest car seat, but spend little if any time thinking about the titanic impact the baby will have on their marriage - and the way their marriage will affect their child.
Enter Dunn, her well-meaning but blithely unhelpful husband, their daughter, and her boisterous extended family, who show us the ways in which outmoded family patterns and traditions thwart the overworked, overloaded parents of today.
On the brink of marital Armageddon, Dunn plunges into the latest relationship research, solicits the counsel of the country's most renowned couples' and sex therapists, canvasses fellow parents, and even consults an FBI hostage negotiator on how to effectively contain an "explosive situation." Instead of having the same fights over and over, Dunn and her husband must figure out a way to resolve their larger issues and fix their family while there is still time. As they discover, adding a demanding new person to your relationship means you have to reevaluate -- and rebuild -- your marriage. In an exhilarating twist, they work together to save the day, happily returning to the kind of peaceful life they previously thought was the sole province of couples without children.
Part memoir, part self-help book with actionable and achievable advice, How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids is an eye-opening look at how the man who got you into this position in this first place is the ally you didn't know you had.
- Recommended by Nicole Cliffe in Slate
- Featured in People Picks
- A Red Tricycle Best Baby and Toddler Parenting Book of the Year
- One of Mother magazine's favorite parenting books of the Year
How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids tackles the last taboo subject of parenthood: the startling, white-hot fury that new (and not-so-new) mothers often have for their mates. After Jancee Dunn had her baby, she found that she was doing virtually all the household chores, even though she and her husband worked equal hours. She asked herself: How did I become the 'expert' at changing a diaper?
Many expectant parents spend weeks researching the best crib or safest car seat, but spend little if any time thinking about the titanic impact the baby will have on their marriage - and the way their marriage will affect their child.
Enter Dunn, her well-meaning but blithely unhelpful husband, their daughter, and her boisterous extended family, who show us the ways in which outmoded family patterns and traditions thwart the overworked, overloaded parents of today.
On the brink of marital Armageddon, Dunn plunges into the latest relationship research, solicits the counsel of the country's most renowned couples' and sex therapists, canvasses fellow parents, and even consults an FBI hostage negotiator on how to effectively contain an "explosive situation." Instead of having the same fights over and over, Dunn and her husband must figure out a way to resolve their larger issues and fix their family while there is still time. As they discover, adding a demanding new person to your relationship means you have to reevaluate -- and rebuild -- your marriage. In an exhilarating twist, they work together to save the day, happily returning to the kind of peaceful life they previously thought was the sole province of couples without children.
Part memoir, part self-help book with actionable and achievable advice, How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids is an eye-opening look at how the man who got you into this position in this first place is the ally you didn't know you had.
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Clever, honest, and hilarious . . . Her warm and funny prose will restore hope for moms―and dads―everywhere. Her book should become a baby shower classic. ― Publishers Weekly
Funny, honest and helpful. ― Grazia
Loads of useful, achievable advice. ― The Pool
Jancee Dunn blends marital advice from real experts with her down to earth folksy wit in How Not To Hate Husband After Kids. If your husband has a better relationship with his phone than he does with his baby, you need to hit him with this book--and then ask him to read it. -- Jen Mann ― New York Times
This book is a very valuable addition to the whole huge transition to becoming parents. This book can help preserve the greatest gift you will ever give your baby: a loving relationship between the baby's parents. -- John Gottman ― Author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Funny, honest and helpful. ― Grazia
Loads of useful, achievable advice. ― The Pool
Jancee Dunn blends marital advice from real experts with her down to earth folksy wit in How Not To Hate Husband After Kids. If your husband has a better relationship with his phone than he does with his baby, you need to hit him with this book--and then ask him to read it. -- Jen Mann ― New York Times
This book is a very valuable addition to the whole huge transition to becoming parents. This book can help preserve the greatest gift you will ever give your baby: a loving relationship between the baby's parents. -- John Gottman ― Author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
著者について
New York Times bestselling author Jancee Dunn has written five books, including a memoir, a children’s book, and Cyndi Lauper: A Memoir. Her essay collection, Why Does My Mother Have A Tattoo? wasa finalist for the Thurber Prize for American Humor. She is a frequent contributor to The New York Times, Vogue, O, The Oprah Magazine, and Parents. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and daughter.
登録情報
- ASIN : B01I1AIU3O
- 出版社 : Little, Brown and Company (2017/3/21)
- 発売日 : 2017/3/21
- 言語 : 英語
- ファイルサイズ : 1124 KB
- Text-to-Speech(テキスト読み上げ機能) : 有効
- X-Ray : 有効にされていません
- Word Wise : 有効
- 付箋メモ : Kindle Scribeで
- 本の長さ : 289ページ
- Amazon 売れ筋ランキング: - 290,546位洋書 (洋書の売れ筋ランキングを見る)
- - 113位Parenting & Families Humor
- - 337位Family Relationships (Kindleストア)
- - 498位Marriage
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Loved it
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Amazing book!
So helpful to see I’m not alone but also the tips have helped me so much. Not just about taking the mental load off but how to talk to my partner and handle myself when I feel like a fight is brewing!
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So helpful to see I’m not alone but also the tips have helped me so much. Not just about taking the mental load off but how to talk to my partner and handle myself when I feel like a fight is brewing!
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Love the anecdotes.
Love the detailed studies and their outcomes.
Love the practical guides to tackle the problems mentioned in the book.
No cons
Love the detailed studies and their outcomes.
Love the practical guides to tackle the problems mentioned in the book.
No cons

Lucija.158
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Eye opener!
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Really great read. It makes you think about a lot of things that you yourself can change in your marriage to make it easier to raise your kids right. And really funny written too!