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1.Chabad（https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481780/jewish/Remarriage.htm）
Remarriage
by Maurice Lamm
Judaism discourages loneliness and recognizes the pain of solitude. It seeks to encourage those who are alone to seek meaningful and richer lives. Hence, whenever possible, it urged remarriage. Tav le’metav tan du mi-le’matav armelo: Better to remain coupled than a widow (single).
The Rabbis showed sharp insight into the difference between first and subsequent marriages, although there is an apparent conflict. Resh Lakish says, "One should match two people only on the basis of their deeds"; Rav says, "Forty days before the creation of a child, a heavenly voice calls out: ‘So-and-so’s daughter is destined for so-and-so.’" Is there a conflict between the opinions? According to Rashi, no. "Rav is speaking of a first marriage, Resh Lakish of a second." The first marriage expresses Rav’s dictum—G d makes the ultimate determination. The second marriage expresses the insight of Resh Lekish—it depends on the rational, planned blending of the qualities of the soul.
There is a positive value to the suggestion that divorced couples remarry one another (machazir ge’rushato). The Torah, however, forbids a man from remarrying a former wife who had married another man in the meantime.
Unlike other religions, the Torah expected remarriage, as a matter of fact: "Lest he die in battle and another marry her" (Deuteronomy 20:7); "Then this latter man... writes her a bill of divorcement... or the man who married her last dies" (Deut. 24:3). Just as divorce frees her to marry, so does death.
There are some differences in the ceremony between first marriage and remarriage. For example, the remarried ketubah substitutes for be’tulta da (maiden) the words armalta da for the widow, and matarakhta da for the divorcee, and the amounts stipulated are changed.
The first marriage requires seven days of rejoicing; the subsequent marriages, though they may be just as joyous, require only one day of Sheva Berakhot. However, if one of the couple had never been married, the full seven days of the Sheva Berakhot are to be observed.
The veiling need not be done for a woman’s subsequent marriage. The yichud, which seals the marriage for a first-time marriage, is not necessary in a second or third marriage. Such marriages are sealed upon retirement to their home, when the couple can fully, not just symbolically, consummate the marriage. The elective elements of the ceremony—who walks down the aisle, who are the escorts, whether the children of the previous marriages should attend—are matters for intelligent and sensitive determination by the couple.
Several points should be remembered for remarriage:
1. If the deceased husband was childless and he has a surviving brother, a chalitzah ceremony must take place.
2. A divorcee may remarry a number of times.
3. A divorcee may not marry a kohen.
4. Jewish divorce must precede remarriage. This is an absolute requirement of Torah law. A civil divorce is not recognized by traditional Jewish courts. The child whose mother did not obtain a Jewish divorce from her former husband may very well be categorized as a mamzer.
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2.Israel National News（http://www.israelnationalnews.com/News/News.aspx/146843）
Jews Marry Spouses Closer to Their Age
48,997 couples married in 2009 – of them 37,165 were Jews. Ages of brides, grooms closer among Jews.
The Central Bureau of Statistics released some numbers pertaining to marriage in Israel as they do each year in honor of Tu B'Av, the holiday celebrating nuptials and considered by Torah sages as one of two happiest days of the year, the other being Yom Kippur.
The average age gap between husband and wife in first marriages was 2.3 years among Jews. The number for the rest of the religions was more than twice as high – at about five years.
All in all, 48,997 couples married in 2009. Of these, 37,165 were Jewish, 9,999 Muslim, 758 Christians and 990 Druze. A press statement explained that the statistics relate to 2009 because CBS's analyses go two years back, not one.
The average age among grooms in their first marriage was 27.6 for the general population and 28.0 for Jews. The average age among brides in their first marriage was 24.8 for the general population and 25.7 for Jews.
Eighty six percent of Jewish marriages were between two people who had never married before. This is down from 89 percent in the early 1970s.
Eighty-four percent of Jewish brides married a man who was born in the same country as they were, while only 36 percent of the brides married a man whose "origin" was the same as theirs. For people born abroad – the origin is the country they were born in. For people born in Israel, "origin" is determined by the father's country of birth.
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3.The Yeshiva World（http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/mitzvah-to-remarry-your-ex-wife）
• July 20, 2011 1:36 am at 1:36 am #794180
the reason we don’t see divorced couples getting back together is probably pretty simple. They don’t want to be married to each other. They prefer the challenges of being divorced to the challenges of being married to someone they can’t get along with.
• July 19, 2011 11:08 pm at 11:08 pm #794178
A man remarrying his ex-wife when she has been married to another man in the interim is not only asur, the Torah calls it a toeiva. Yet it is legal almost everywhere.
• July 19, 2011 10:41 pm at 10:41 pm #794177
It is always possible to reconcile a relationship after divorce. Of course if the woman remarries, then she can never remarry the former husband in any sense and it would be a horrible outcome.
• July 19, 2011 10:20 pm at 10:20 pm #794176
The Mitzvah to remarry your ex-wife, would be a “kiyum” of not marrying her if she had married someone else after being divorced from you, or marrying her before she marries someone else and then becomes Assur.
• CR poster “IUseBrains” mentioned in another thread the mitzvah for former spouses to remarry each other. I too learnt about this mitzvah in Yeshiva. Unfortunately I rarely hear this mitzvah being practiced. (Although I have heard of a small number of times it has occurred.) Why is that? Why don’t we see this mitzvah being practiced more often.
More importantly, we should encourage former couples to remarry. It is a mitzvah only they can fulfill.
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